Boundaries are key for flourishing intimacy

This post is close to my heart and one of the biggest changes that allowed me to feel really safe and sexy in my skin. The permission to say no and listen to my deeper no allowed my deeper yes to come alive.

Without boundaries in or outside the bedroom it is likely you feel quite drained and overwhelmed.

One of the most efficient and effective ways to start implementing boundaries is to see boundaries as the guardians of your energy.

If you imagine all of your energy is contained in a bowl and where your boundaries are loose there are holes. Imagine holes going all around the bowl some at the top, sides and the bottom. Each hole represents an area of your life for example, family, friends, work, school.

If you implement boundaries and work to close the holes towards the top of the bowl your energy is still going to be leaking out of the holes at the bottom of the bowl.

The holes at the top might be the more obvious area to work on but it might not be the most effective place to start.

In my coaching practice one of the first things we do is an assessment of your biggest energy leaks and work to seal them up.

Here is a mini version:
Score yourself 1-10 on how empowered you feel in these areas of your life.
1 is zero boundaries and 10 is feeling really secure.

Family
Relationships ( Romantic or sexual)
At work
Friends
Sex
Taking care of yourself

By implementing boundaries and working with the area you feel the least empowered you will have so much more energy for a flourishing sex life.

With all this said choosing to implement any boundaries in your life deserves a huge celebration! This incredible tool can help you know the best place to start.

Share this with someone you love so we can all have mind-blowing sex💋

Selby
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