A Cherished Heart Overflows With Pleasure

Our hearts are so deeply connected to our ability to feel pleasure.

The longing of every human to feel safe, loved and accepted is a resounding one.

The experiences from childhood to young adulthood form the foundation of how much cherishing and how much pleasure we allow ourselves to experience as adults.

If you can’t seem to feel worthy of good things, feel worthy of pleasure or rest or a good relationship but you don’t understand why. Then there is a good chance that you have had experiences that have made you feel unworthy of being cherished and of feeling good.

This result in us subconsciously making decisions that cause these beliefs of unworthiness to continuously live themselves out.

It might not even be something you consciously remember, as I tells so many of my clients, the way that women have been shamed by society and in the media is more than enough to make you feel unworthy of embracing lusciousness of your body and your pleasure. These narrow ideals of the type of women that can embrace their bodies and how they can do it have been fed to us from such a young age and this in and of itself more than enough to make you feel unworthy of pleasure. We do what feels safe, what allows us to be accepted and what allows us to be loved, even if consciously that hurts us more than we realise.

It feels safe to hustle to exhaustion and prioritise everyone's needs and pleasure above your own because of the subconscious acceptance it brings especially if that is all you have seen of an adult woman and unfortunately for a lot of us that is what we see of our mothers, our aunts and women who look like us.

So start cherishing your heart whenever you do something pleasurable for yourself so that it can start to feel safe to live a pleasurable life. It can feel safe to be with a partner that prioritises you and your pleasure, it can be safe to work with incredible people and have incredible friends! Cherish yourself like you would cherish a child that’s just said their first word and let yourself know it is so, so safe to receive pleasure and you are so deserving of good people and good things because you really are.

Lots of pleasure ❤

Selby
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