Start feeling luxurious in your skin right now

This is something I absolutely craved to feel a few years ago.

In myself and many of my clients this usually comes down to limiting beliefs that embracing pleasure, feeling sensual and sexy is bad. It is not safe to shine, especially while joyfully feeling bliss. Unfortunately the conditioning in many of us goes so deep it affects not just big pleasures like being able to relax during sex and feel heavenly but also feeling resistance towards experiencing small moments of pleasure with ourselves. For example, savouring your favourite tea, stroking your skin and enjoying what it feels like to take a few breaths and sink into your skin.

Here is a short process I use regularly and share with my clients to start to feel luxuriously sexy and sensual whilst honouring and gently working through shame and fear filled limiting beliefs:

1)Take a few breaths to connect to your body, then scan your body for what I like to call my pleasure anchor, this is somewhere in your body that feels really good right now. For example, your belly, your heart maybe your inner thigh, your genitals. For me, its my belly, it just feels like home.

2)Take a few breaths into this pleasure anchor and savour the feeling, focus on the sensations in this area. Does it feel warm and smooth? Tingly and electric? Allow the feeling to expand and contract with each breath.

By this point some resistant thoughts might have started to arise. They could sound like the limiting beliefs we mentioned at the start. I’m not worthy of feeling sensual, who am I to joyfully feel bliss, why even try I’m probably doing it wrong (you can’t do this exercise wrong). Or maybe the limiting beliefs are not so clear, you just feel tense or cringey and just want to stop.

This is all so normal! Especially if this is the first time in a while you are starting to access your sensuality and pleasure. Your body is doing its job and being the ride or die it is by trying to protect you. It doesn’t want you to be seen as slutty or emotional or too radiant. Your body would never, ever let you do something that could lead to your possible rejection your body really does have your back like no one else.

Since you are are hopefully alone or in the presence of someone safe as you do this exercise the chances of rejection are zero! It’s just you and your amazing potential to feel expansive joy and soul shaking orgasms. So remind those thoughts that you are alone and you are safe and keep breathing. Keep dropping into your pleasure, keep feeling it expand, feel the pleasure anchor coat the limiting beliefs, bridge the pleasure to your limiting beliefs and your body, reminding yourself that you are safe to experience pleasure and take up space in this moment.

3) Go back and forth between your pleasure anchor and any tension or resistance. Keep reminding your body you are so worthy of feeling this amazing, it is safe to feel this amazing with yourself and with your partner(more on feeling pleasure with a partner in pt2).

Do this practice whenever your craving that luscious, refreshing just orgasmed feeling, only a few minutes is needed and if practiced often it will transform your ability to experience simple pleasures like deeply enjoying your favourite cup of tea to the most delicious partnered and solo pleasure experiences.

Bonus Tip: If you struggle to find pleasure inside of yourself, find an object that makes you feel super luxurious. Maybe, a soft blanket or a beautifully scented moisturiser. I love to use warm water from the shower, feel the delicious sensations of the object on your skin as your pleasure anchor and as you breath in and out allow the pleasure to spread and connect to every single part of you.

That is all for today, if you have any questions you can email me at thefemmefatalecoach@gmail.com.

Selby

Xxx